Male Chivalry; A Lost Tradition?

It seems like there is no such thing as chivalry anymore. I don't know if this is because of feminists, or its just too 'old fashioned'. Even I have faced the difficult challenge to differentiate between chivalry and being looked upon as a weak woman. I still struggle with it sometimes.

Like when Jared offers to hold my suitcase...

So sweet, but I KNOW that I can get by without him. I want to prove this to him, but if I do it is a strike against letting him be chivalrous. So usually I say "I can handle it" and then 3 minutes later I apologize and ask him to take my bags.

I want to be strong but at the same time I expect men to give up seats for women, to open doors for them etc. and most the time I don't see this in public.

Jared is pretty good. I feel protected and provided for. He will give me his jacket if I'm cold. Give up his seat for me. Gets into my side of the bed while I'm still getting ready for bed to warm it up for me. I have woken up in the morning to find a blanket on me b/c I was shivering. And he even opens my car door (on occasion). All these things and more. What a man I have! I don't think that chivalry is lost. Not at all...

BUT THIS KIND OF CHIVALRY....

WELL... IT WAS NEVER THERE TO BEGIN WITH.